The polite, reserved exterior of INFPs can at first make them difficult to get to know. They enjoy conversation, however, taking particular delight in the unusual. When INFPs are in a sociable mood, their humor and charm shine through. Disposed to like people and to avoid conflict, INFPs tend to make pleasant company.
Devoted to those in their inner circle, INFPs guard the emotional well-being of others, consoling those in distress. Guided by their desire for harmony, INFPs prefer to be flexible unless their ethics are violated. Then, they become passionate advocates for their beliefs. The core of an INFPs strength comes from their strongly held core convictions that they may or may not talk about on a regular basis. They are often able to sway the opinions of others through tact, diplomacy, and an ability to see varying sides of an issue.
INFPs develop these insights through reflection, and they require substantial time alone to ponder and process new information. While they can be quite patient with complex material, they are generally bored by routine. Though not always organized, INFPs are meticulous about things they value. Perfectionists, they may have trouble completing a task because it cannot meet their high standards. They may even go back to a completed project after the deadline so they can improve it.
INFPs are creative types and often have a gift for language. As introverts, they may prefer to express themselves through writing. Their dominant Feeling drives their desire to communicate, while their auxiliary intuition supplies the imagination. Having a talent for symbolism, they enjoy metaphors and similes. They continually seek new ideas and adapt well to change. They prefer working in an environment that values these gifts and allows them to make a positive difference in the world, according to their personal beliefs.
INFPs are likely to enjoy ministry areas and callings where they can:
Express their values and beliefs through their service
See through all steps of getting a project completed
Serve independently, but where feedback is readily available
Work on a project when their heart compels them to, not when a schedule dictates
Serve alongside creative individuals in a tension free environment
Explore people and develop deeper relationships with others
Help others grow
Work on a project until it is complete to their own high standards
Your Ministry Strengths May Include:
Strong commitment to work you are engaged in
Flexibility and the willingness to adapt to change in a ministry
Comfort working with people one-on-one
Understanding the wider vision of a ministry
Perceptiveness about people
Ability to work well alone
Eagerness to think outside the box
Your Ministry Weaknesses May Include:
Reluctancy to surrender any control over a project
Lack of interest in project you don't have control over
Unrealistic expectations on the length of a project
Impatience with rigid structures
Rushing through important details
Rejecting traditional methods
Summary of Ministry Growth Path for You
Develop realistic expectations for your work within a ministry
My boyfriend and I love each other very much (dating 2 years)...but sometimes I wonder if he really appreciates the crap I have to do training to be a behavioral/clinical psychologist. I think he does a pretty good job for a geology major but here are some tips on how to date a medical student :)
1. Don't expect to see your S.O. Ever. Dates are few and hard to come by. I promise we really do try to fit you in.
2. Learn to hide your “ew, gross” reactions when we tell you all the stuff you never wanted to know about your bodily functions. For me currently, it's my excitement over the brains I'll be dissecting next semester. (I'm so excited)
3. Support us when we come home after each test, upset because we failed—and gently remind us about how much we studied, how smart we and after we get our passing grade how unnecessary the “I’m going to fail out of medical school and never become an MD” dramatics are. (I swear during finals and midterms I do this like everyday, and I apologize honey)
4. Each week we'll will have a new illness. Some will be extremely rare, others will be more mundane. Doesn’t matter. Each week I'll learn about a personality disorder and swear I have it, or think other people have it. Medical school can, and will, turn even the sanest person into a hypochondriac.
5. There will be weeks we'll forget about everything. I usually forget to eat and he'll have to remind me or bring me food. I love him for that. I've even forgotten about my own birthday once.
6. We'll make you hyper-aware that germs are everywhere and on everything. You know that water fountain on campus? YYeeaahh...about that.
7. Romantic date entails of a movie and dinner, rarely. Or him ordering chinese or pizza and us sitting together, talking about video games that I never get to play anymore, while I study.
8. Our study habits will make you feel like a complete slacker. For us, hitting the books 8-to-10 hours a day is not uncommon. I usually study at least 5 hours a day (to just pass). You'll wonder how you ever managed to pass school on your meager one hour of studying per night. And I apologize personally, for making other people feel like slackers or thinking you're a slacker because of this. It's just normal to me.
9. We're expected to know everything. Everything! The name of the 7 million-lettered, Latin sounding disorder, the technical term for one rare disease only found in certain countries. But ask us why your knee is swollen, or what you should do to tame cough, or if you have simple depression, and we won't have a clue or we'll give you 1,000 reasons what it could be.
10. You'll need friends with unending patience who pretend never to get sick of listening to your endless venting and complaints. Or, you'll need to pay a therapist who will pretend never to get sick of listening to your endless venting and complaints.
But take this all with a grain of salt, please. We love you very much anyway and appreciate what you do :)
I'm not strong enough to stay away What can I do I would die without you In your presence my heart knows no shame I'm not to blame 'Cause you bring my heart to its knees [. From: http://www.elyrics.net/read/a/apocalyptica-lyrics/not-strong-enough-lyrics.html .]
And it's killing me when you're away And I wanna leave And I wanna stay And I'm so confused So hard to choose between the pleasure and the pain And I know it's wrong And I know it's right And even if I tried to win the fight My heart would overrule my mind And I'm not strong enough to stay away
There's nothing I can do My heart is chained to you And I can't get free Look what this love has done to me
'Cause it's killing me when you're away And I wanna leave And I wanna stay And I'm so confused So hard to choose between the pleasure and the pain And I know it's wrong And I know it's right And even if I tried to win the fight My heart would overrule my mind And I'm not strong enough to stay away
"I need links, they're all a chain. They're all chain reactions. Everyone. One thing begins the next. A man has a weakness. he's flawed. this flaw leads him to guilt. guilt leads him to shame. the shame he componsates with pride and vanity. and when pride fails, despair takes over and they lead to his ultimate destruction, and which is his dying fate. Something has to stop the flow." "He needs to remember he's not God, humility is needed to wake them up, if he accepts his shame, she has a chance. If not, she will die." -- movie, Ink